This Isn't Your Fault
You didn't cause it.
You didn't deserve it.
And you're not alone.
This space is for women who've discovered their partner's hidden pornography use/addiction or sex addiction - and feel broken, confused and blamed.
You're not the problem. You're not crazy.
You're experiencing betrayal trauma.
About Me
I created This Isn't Your Fault after my own experience of betrayal trauma. I discovered my partner's hidden porn use and the secrecy, shame, and emotional devastation it brought into our relationship. It feels so raw, as sexual betrayal is a form of infidelity. It actually feels the same in our body as if we had discovered physical betrayal. In some cases it can feel worse, as it wasn't just one woman. We can't compete with thousands of novel videos or images. I have been there when I first discovered everything - checking and searching for evidence of further betrayal...that's called hypervigilance. It's your brain's way of trying to protect you. With help and time, your brain and body can heal.I know how it feels to question everything, to doubt yourself, to wonder if you're somehow to blame.You're not.
This is betrayal trauma - and you're not alone.This space exists to support women who are waking up from the fog of denial, gaslighting, and shame...and who are ready to reclaim their voice and worth. Whether you decide to stay with your partner or not - you will be OK.
Work With MeRight now, I'm creating a safe, validating space for women navigating betrayal trauma.
If you're feeling confused, heartbroken, angry - or just need someone who gets it - you're not alone.Soon I'll be offering:1:1 support (via email, voice call or zoom)Free resources to help you feel grounded and less aloneA community of women who understand this pain.For now, you can connect with me through Instagram or email.
Get in TouchIf something I've said resonates, or if you want to talk about working together, I'd love to hear from you.Email Me
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